Julia,
Greets! Your name seems familiar, but I cannot recall if we've
met, but it's nice to hear from you. I feel that most people feel a sense
of privacy about their space and that an invasion of it is an assault.
These are strange times, indeed, and it's prudent to be street-wise, and
not _too_ empathetic. I wouldn't want _anyone at all_ to pat my bottom,
male or female – it's one thing to do this to a baby and quite another
thing to do this to an adult.
Paul